How do I Spend Alone Time or "Date Myself"

Hello Readers, I am here today to talk about how I spend some alone time with myself. I wanted to give you a little peek inside my little bubble. So here we go.

When I take time to be myself it is usually because I want to take care of myself first. How can I be there for everyone else without being there for me. You have to live for yourself first because if you aren’t taking care of you everything else you touch won’t be the best version that it can be.

When I take time to be by myself I usually am reading a book that I have been trying to finish for a while, work on a project that I am crocheting, research my ancestry, research something that I want to learn about, or just watching something.

Taking care of yourself is vital for the rest of everything in your life.

Thank you for reading,

Irish Queen

Brain Dump

Hey, Readers, I apologize that I have not done one of these in quite sometime I have been really busy… that will be for another post on a different day.

Why Are Chakras So Important

What Are Chakras?

Too often, we start feeling overwhelmed with worry or stymied by a relationship conflict, or just life in general or in need of an energy boost. But the right class can leave us feeling clearer, lighter, and refreshed. Credit the stress-busting powers of a good workout? Sure. But the ancient yogis, and many teachers today, would also chalk this up to the unique way that yoga poses and breath work move blocked energy through the subtle body. According to yoga tradition, the subtle body is a part of you that you can’t see or touch—it’s where your energy flows, which is why it’s also referred to as the energy body. There are seven key points in the subtle body that are thought to be vortexes of energy, known as chakras. When energy becomes blocked in a chakra, it triggers physical, mental, or emotional imbalances that manifest in symptoms such as anxiety, lethargy, or poor digestion. With just a little bit of coaching, you can tap into the chakras as a potent way of harnessing and shifting your energy in the direction you want it to go.

Start by thinking of chakras as a blueprint for your own self-care, and your yoga practice as the architect that makes that blueprint a reality. The most direct way to use the chakras is to learn how each one is associated with an element in nature. As Alan Finger, founder of ISHTA Yoga, explains, the first five chakras are associated with the physical elements earth, water, fire, air, and ether (or space). The last two chakras are thought to connect us beyond the earthly realm, so they are associated with the elements of light and cosmic energy.

Once you learn the element that each chakra is associated with, you can start to suss out how that element feels in your body. And thinking about your body in these symbolic terms can help you access new stores of energy with the practices detailed in these pages. For example, the root chakra is associated with earth. When it’s in balance, we feel strong and grounded; when it’s out of balance, we may feel unrooted and insecure. Or take the pelvic chakra, which is associated with water. When it’s in balance, we feel fluid and like our creative juices are flowing. When it’s not, we might feel rigid, dry, or emotionally brittle, like a plant that hasn’t been watered enough.

In order to restore balance in your chakras, you must first tune in to how you’re feeling, then figure out which chakra to stimulate to counteract the imbalance. For example, if you’re feeling low in energy, you can do poses that target the navel chakra to rekindle your inner fire. If you’re feeling anxious and long to feel more grounded, choose poses for the earthy root chakra. Or if you seek more courage to speak your truth, the right poses can open and stimulate the throat chakra.

The effects of a chakra-based practice can have a tangible, empowering ripple effect on your life. Jasmine Tarkeshi, vinyasa teacher and cofounder of Laughing Lotus Yoga Center, says she’s been doing more root-chakra practices since becoming a new mom, and the effect is palpable. “If I’m feeling frenzied, I hold the poses longer to feel more grounded and present,” she says. “It informs the rest of my day to the point where maybe I’m not losing my keys so much or I’m not so busy or forgetful that I skip lunch. If I specifically use the poses medicinally rather than just haphazardly, I can really change my day.”

Each of the poses Tarkeshi recommends here is designed to address a corresponding chakra and its associated life issues. You can do the entire sequence, or focus on the pose or poses that speak to areas in your life that need attention. For a more restorative, meditative approach, first close your eyes while seated and envision the color associated with the chakra radiating from the chakra’s location, as you repeat the sound associated with it. And to help you focus and go deeper into each asana, try repeating the associated chakra sound while practicing.

Remember, the changes to the subtle body can’t be touched or measured as you would your heart rate or height. You have to trust your inner experience to feel them and to recognize their benefits. Claire Missingham, a London-based vinyasa flow yoga teacher, advises trying chakra-based poses for four weeks and keeping a journal of how you feel after each practice. Keep your notes simple, and write down any changes you feel in your energy, such as, “calmed me down” or “helped me communicate more clearly.” Keeping track this way just might help you see how tuning in to the chakras can help you shift more than just your physical state.

Muladhara (Root Chakra)

Element: Earth
Color: Red
Sound: Lam
Life theme: The Muladhara governs your family ties and feelings of survival, belonging, and guardedness. Your earliest memories are stored here, including whether or not your basic needs were met. When it is blocked or out of balance, you can become needy, have low self-esteem, or have self-destructive behaviors. When Muladhara is in balance, you feel strong and confident; you can stand up on your own two feet and take care of yourself.

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Vrksasana (Tree Pose)

Vrksasana (Tree Pose)

Stand with your feet hip-width apart, creating a stable base. On an exhale, soften your knees, and release your tailbone as you engage your thighs. Draw the sole of your right foot to the inside of your left inner thigh or calf; continue dropping your tailbone and engaging the standing leg’s thigh to keep the stable alignment you had standing on both feet. Press through your left foot as you lift through the crown of your head. Hold for 5 breaths, and switch sides. Allow gravity to root you down, while noticing how the energy moves up your spine.

Svadhisthana (Sacral or Pelvic Chakra)

Element: Water
Color: Orange
Sound: Yam
Life theme: This chakra corresponds with your reproductive and sexual organs, and represents fluidity, creativity, and fertility. You can take a literal interpretation of this, or associate this chakra with whether or not you feel deserving of a pleasurable, abundant, creative life. When it’s out of balance, you can feel emotionally unstable, guilty, or hard on yourself. When Svadhisthana in balance, you feel creative, positive, and receptive to change—like the ocean and its tides, you’re in the flow.

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Deviasana (Goddess Pose)

Deviasana (Goddess Pose)

Step your feet wide, turn your toes out, and sink your hips far enough to bring each knee over its corresponding ankle. Place your hands on your thighs and draw your tailbone down as the pubis lifts. Breathe deeply and move side to side, rocking your pelvis back and forth. You can fold down and move your arms side to side between your feet. The point is to enjoy the movement. Feel free to sigh or make sounds. Hold for 8-10 breaths. By opening the hips, you draw focus to the reproductive organs; in swaying, you recognize life’s ebb and flow.

Manipura (Navel Chakra)

Element: Fire
Color: Yellow
Sound: Ram
Life theme: You’ve heard the expression “firing on all cylinders.” When the Manipura is in balance, you feel alive and have the self-esteem and confidence to take action and be productive. When it’s blocked, you lack courage, have low self-esteem, and feel stagnant and inert. By working on this chakra, you can awaken your true personal inner power and work through your fear of taking risks.

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Navasana (Boat Pose)

Navasana (Boat Pose)

Begin seated with your legs ahead of you. Hug your knees into your chest, and then grab behind your knees to help lift your feet off the floor and balance on your sitting bones. Lift your chest, and draw your shoulders down. Shift your weight forward to the front of your sitting bones as you draw in your navel, engaging your abdominals, and extend your arms forward and your legs up into Navasana. As you exhale, cross your arms at your chest, and lower your legs until they’re a few inches off the ground; inhale to rise back to Navasana. Repeat 5 times, and then lower to your back. Boat is an energizing pose that ignites your core muscles, creating power for transformation.

Anahata (Heart Chakra)

Element: Air
Color: Green
Sound: Yam
Life Theme: Awaken to the power of unconditional love within you through compassion, forgiveness, and acceptance. When the heart chakra is blocked, you become possessive and codependent, and may form dysfunctional relationships. You may also stay isolated for fear of rejection. When you stimulate the Anahata chakra, you can heal past wounds by reopening your heart, learn to love unconditionally, and form healthy relationships.

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Ustrasana (Camel Pose)


Ustrasana (Camel Pose)

Come to your knees, and sit back on your heels. Join your hands at your heart center. Tuck your toes and rise to bring your hips over your knees, making sure knees and toes are hip-width apart. Place your palms on your lower back with the fingers pointing up and gently draw your sacrum down, as your front hip bones lift. Keep your chin in toward your chest, and lean back. Hug the shoulder blades toward each other. Stay here and breathe, or reach for your heels with your hands. The head is the last thing to release, if it’s comfortable. After a few breaths, bring your hands back to your sacrum and sit on your heels, returning your hands to prayer and bowing your head. Camel opens the heart center. Before you arch back, consider dedicating the posture to someone for whom you feel compassion.

Vishuddha (Throat Chakra)

Element: Ether
Color: Blue
Sound: Ham
Lift theme: When Vishuddha is blocked, you may feel like you can’t find your voice or your truth. You may also be overly talkative and not listen to others. When this chakra is open and stimulated, your voice moves through space to help you communicate your emotions in healthy ways. You also become better at listening to others and honoring their personal truths without judgment.

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Salamba Sarvangasana (Supported Shoulderstand)

Salamba Sarvangasana (Supported Shoulderstand)

Lie down with your shoulders supported on a folded blanket, head on the floor. Bend your knees, rock your hips up, lift your legs overhead, and then release your toes toward the floor beyond the crown of your head. Place your hands midback, and lift one leg at a time skyward. Allow your gaze to drop toward your heart, and hear the sound of your breath. Feel free to express yourself by joining the soles of the feet, or by lowering one leg at a time toward the floor. Hold for up to 2 minutes. To release, lower both feet to the floor above your head, release your hands to the floor, and lower yourself vertebra by vertebra. Freeing the neck and spine, and then turning the senses in toward your breath, allows you to connect with your own rhythm.

Anja (Third-Eye Chakra)

Element: Light
Color: Indigo
Sound: OM
Life theme: This chakra is associated with your intuition, or sixth sense, and governs how the rest of the chakras function. When Ajna is functioning well, you have insight, and you trust your inner wisdom to face life’s challenges and choices. When it’s blocked, you feel close-minded, too attached to logic, untrusting, and cynical.

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Sukhasana (Easy Pose)

Working on the sixth chakra opens your mind to the bigger picture and different perspectives, and it helps you receive the wisdom that cannot be seen or heard by ordinary senses.

Sukhasana (Easy Pose)

Come to a seat. Fold one heel in toward your groin, and then the other. If your knees aren’t lower than your hips, sit on a folded blanket. Cup your palms toward each other, touching opposite fingertips in Hakini Mudra. For 10 breaths, close your eyes, pose a question to yourself, and focus on the sound of your breath, placing the tip of your tongue to the roof of your mouth as you inhale, and relaxing it as you exhale. Release the backs of your hands to your knees, and see if you sense an answer. Stay here for up to 5 minutes. Hakini Mudra is known to increase the power of concentration, and in this pose you can easily access calm focus.

Sahasrara (Crown Chakra)

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Savasana (Corpse Pose)

Element: Cosmic Energy
Color: Violet or White
Sound: OM
Life theme: The crown chakra connects to beauty itself and the spiritual realm. It helps you to understand who you are beyond your physical self—that you are a spiritual being having a human experience. It is not located in the body but actually hovers above the crown of the head. When it’s closed, you think happiness can only come from the outside, and you suffer. Working on this chakra helps you to feel free in any situation.

Savasana (Corpse Pose)

Make sure you’re warm and comfortable, and lie down on your back. You can cover yourself with a blanket, cover your eyes with an eye pillow, or place a rolled-up blanket under your knees or head. Open your legs hip-width apart, and release your arms to your sides with your palms facing up. Take a deep breath and squeeze every part of your body tight, lifting your head, arms, and legs off the floor. Hold for a moment, and let everything go with a big exhale out of the mouth. Do this several times. Imagine a lotus flower at the crown of your head. With every inhale, imagine Divine light pouring in through the flower, and with every exhale, let go of anything that binds you to the past. Stay for 5–20 minutes, then slowly bring your awareness back to your breath, and move your fingers and toes to reconnect to your physical body without losing your connection to your infinite self.

Why Meditation Is Key…

I find that meditation is key because I find that helps me with my ADHD and my focus in addition to my medications. Even though my meditations still work quite well for me I find that meditation helps me center myself even more so than just taking my medication on its own.

Ways To Control Your Anger

As I said above this is why I use meditation and other methods to help control my anger and when I do get upset I tend to just go for a walk and try to come down before I do or say anything that would later regret. You just have to figure out what your triggers are and try not to let yourself get triggered by those things that usually do trigger you.

Responsibility

Early in my life my father taught me one of the greatest lessons I have ever learned and that lesson was not just on responsibility but on accountability as well and it goes further into accepting who you are. When you do something whether it’s good or bad own it. You need to be who you are don’t pretend to be somebody you are not. On who you are good things and bad things because that makes you who you are and be proud of yourself be proud of everything you do good or bad.

In Closing…

Thank you for being a continued reader and for those who have just joined in welcome to my blog and I hope that any questions you may have do not hesitate to let me know and I will make sure that I can answer them if not I will make sure I can find that answer for you.

Thank you,

Irish Queen

Moments

The moment that I would love to live over is my college graduation day because that day was really special for me.

All my life people around me have said that she can’t do this she can’t do that and graduating college was one of those things. So I love when I can go and do whatever people said that I couldn’t do.

Sorry this post is so short.

Thank you for reading,

Irish Queen

2019: A Year & A Decade In Review

Wow! I cannot believe that in a few short hours that this year and this decade will be coming to a close. I know that I have been neglecting on posting and updating on this blog in the results of that is because my computer was seven years old and running extremely slow and sometimes completely unresponsive so I got myself a new computer so I will be back on my game with posting on this blog.

This blog post is going to be discussing pretty much all of my memories over the past decade to the best of my recollection and just my highs and lows over the past year and over the past decade. So I apologize in advance if this blog post is on the longer side.

2010

I turned 20 years old and that year I really started studying because I knew that I was graduating the following June 2011 and I was planning on going for my GED. I went on a tour of the College Experience Program through the College of Saint Rose in Albany, New York.

2011

I turned 21 and I Took my GED and I passed including the math part which I am not strong at all whatsoever. Also in June of this year are you graduated from Wildwood programs and that August I went to college.

2012

This year was a rough year because I had major surgery in December and then 10 days after my surgery while I was still recovering I received news that my great grandmother who was 99 years old passed away. My favorite memory of her Will always be that even though she did have dementia she always managed to remember me… Why because of my red hair.

2013

This year was a great year because I had graduated from college and moved into my very first apartment. And then on December 10 of this year my boyfriend and I became a couple.

A family friend and I on my graduation day.

2014

I was able to see my cousin marry the love of her life.

Me and my cousin

2016

I went to another cousins wedding.

2017

My cousin welcomed a beautiful baby boy.

My cousin who was born in 2017

Attended yet another cousins wedding. And admittedly I started getting wedding fever.

My cousin and her husband

2018

I crocheted a giant blanket for one of my aunts for Christmas.

The giant blanket

2019

This past Fourth of July I was honored to be asked by my father to work for him on the Fourth of July down at the fireworks.

My father and I.

This year I started to get into cooking and being healthier. And really wanted to focus on strengthening my relationship with my parents by going apple picking and the balloon fest.

Well that is my decade in review. Happy New Year, 2020!

Until next time,

Irish Queen

Feeling Fed Up

Hello there readers,

Please let me speak up about something that has been really seriously angering me. Mind you I am not having a pity party. 

Of ALL the issues from all those who are running for president I have yet to hear anything about what they are going to do for the people who live with a disability & have to rely on service coordinators & services to live a decent life.

Services that people with disabilities‬ ‪like myself rely are benefits like SNAP, HEAP, SSI, and benefit health system (which in my opinion makes it really difficult for me a lot of the time). I just have a hard time getting my meds because the pharmacy CANNOT fill it until I am completely out of my meds which causes me to be anxious and stressed out.

And something that ties into this is 30 years ago next year a bill was signed into law— the bill I am talking about is the ADA (Americans with Disabilities Act)‬ I have yet to hear anything from the candidates about helping people with disabilities. And no mention of this historic nature of this bill, either.

I want to work but applying for jobs has almost ‬‪become a waste of my time (I feel) and now hearing what DT (he deserves no respect from me) is doing to those who rely on SNAP (like myself) to live is taking money away from children who need it because he decided to balloon the deficit with his trips to Mar-A- Largo and reckless disregard for the law.

DT’s change to SNAP requirements makes it difficult because I have been trying to get a job however I cannot seem to get either a job interview, or hired for that matter and the 20 hours a week is unfair because I have been trying but it is easier said than done.

I don’t know what I have to do to live a decent life because I have tried to get a job and so far I have had no luck.

Getting Active August– Monthlong Post

I know that I have been slacking I have been meaning to post sooner but I have been having serious case of WRITER’S BLOCK. But allow me to get candid for a moment. This is just the beginning of a new chapter for me because I admit that I am very overweight and I need to lose a bit of weight for health purposes.

I am posting this on here so that there is a little bit of accountability, and so I can share my highs and lows, and share this uphill battle with you – my valued readers. I will be posting other posts to my blog as well but this will be my first “series” post that I will continue posting to.

After August is over I will do another post to follow this so that you can follow my progress each month, updated weekly.

I will post an update to this post weekly talking about how I feel and an update photo, what I like and what I slacked on, etc. I will also post what I did food wise, exercise, etc. below is my starting photos so that you can see the changes.

Starting Out

August 1– I am going to commit myself to a 30 day workout challenge starting today. I already shared my starting photos. Here I am just stating some housekeeping facts: starting stats, and goals.

I currently don’t have a scale but I am planning on getting one in the very near future.

Starting stats

  • Age: 29 years old
  • Height: 5’6
  • Starting weight: 191 lbs. (drs. office scale)
  • Health issues: high blood pressure
  • Shirt size: M/L
  • Pants: 14

Thank you for following along on this journey. Below are where I want to get to.

Goals

  • Goal weight: 140- 145 lbs
  • Health issues: no High Blood Pressure
  • Shirt size: M-L (depending on the maker
  • Pants: 8 to 10

Exercise Plan

Below I have posted my exercise plan for the month of August.

I will be back to add to this post next Wednesday…

Reader Input

Dear Readers,

I know that I have not been the best at posting here but I would like your input on how I am doing and I want to learn about what your thoughts are on my blog so I have added a survey (that I made myself) for you to take so I can learn a little about you (the reader) and deliver a better experience for all because I feel as though I have been neglecting my blog and I want to post more… but it is the dreaded writer’s block. so below I have added the link to the survey.

Thank you soo much for being a reader. This is your opportunity to have your voice and opinion heard. https://forms.gle/5LYTut19inCjyZML9 I look forward to seeing your input, and it is truly valued. Thank you again.

Irish Queen

My Blog: One Year Later

Dear Readers,

It has been quite a while since I have posted here and that is my fault. I have been working on a schedule for my posts… yet forgetting to actually post something. Laughs at myself.

Well, one week ago today was the first anniversary of my blog, and I want to talk about how I have grown, review my posts over the past year and talk about what is next for my blog.

The Beginning…

One year ago, March 26, 2018 I had been thinking about starting a blog for some time… about my gift, my disability, Williams Syndrome I had done some serious research about all of the different hlog sites… Tumblr, Blogger, etc., Read a bunch of stuff on blogging, and looked for ideas on how and where to begin… I had no idea what I was about to do.

I finally settled on WordPress, why?

The reason why I settled nicely into WordPress is because of the super user-friendly format and all of the customization options that were available and the pricing is super reasonable… compared to other sites and whar they had to offer.

Starting Out

So I created my account and started out on my blogging journey then after I have everything ready to go. Then I set it aside because I was taking care of my aunt who had just had double knee replacement surgery. Then a little over a month later I sat down and hopped on to WordPress, now it is time to begin.

What do I write about?

Sitting there staring at the blinking cursor my mind starts to race what do I write about? I freeze then it hits me just talking about the blog and about you.

So I started writing my Welcome post just offering some general education on what Williams Syndrome is, a little about me and a little about the blog.

I originally thought that maybe post once a week, but then I thought no one is going to read this but I fought the negative thoughts down and said to myself just post whenever you want about what you want to don’t worry what people think this is your blog so have fun with it.

I have been trying to write things that get people talking or at least write a comment to my posts.

So then I got busy living life and then come a couple days after Thanksgiving, I decided to write My Thoughts just a rambling off of my thoughts and pictures.

Then about a month later on December 10,2018 I follow it up with Happy Anniversary: An Open Letter To My Love to my boyfriend of 5 years.

Then 10 days later I write My Goals For The New Year because I wasn’t going to post anything until after Christmas.

My next post 2018- Year In Review took a look back at the year that had been and honestly it could have been better.

The first post of the new year How I Set Up My Blog came from a comment in response to a prior blog post.

I came up with some ideas for blog posts Exciting News For the Blog and I have been meaning to start posting those ideas and posting to the blog more often.

And then there is my Birthday Post where I reflect on my 29th year of my life… and that was in January, since then I have been seriously slacking on posting.

How I Have Grown

Since starting this blog I have noticed that my writing has improved, I am more perspective, I think about what I am writing, I notice that I am starting to feel better after I post an update.

What’s Next?

I plan on recommitting myself to my blog and continuing to improve my blog. I will continue posting and I will post more often also.

Thanks for reading,

Irish Queen

Birthday Post

Today is my 29th birthday and I have been feeling really sentimental and a little emotional the last couple of days and I can’t really explain why… it has been a little frustrating. I usually get sentimental around my birthday especially the last couple of years. I guess that I don’t really have an explanation except that I am getting older.

Today in 1990 my mother was 29 when I was born so I have known my mother for half of her life, as I am the same age that she was when she gave birth to me. The last couple of years my mother and I have grown closer to each other and that is something that I truly treasure. I have also grown closer with my father, my little sister (22 years old) and my brother (25 years old) over the last couple of years as well.

I don’t want to keep rambling and bore you but I shall post again really soon.

Exciting News For the Blog

I have been thinking about doing some new monthly/weekly blog posts and below I will tell you what they are and a little bit about what I will talk about in the posts. Feel free to weigh in and share your thoughts and opinions about your favorites and not so favorites. So let’s get started…

(insert month or this week) I’m Obsessed With…

For those of you who watch Meet the Press with Chuck Todd, I am taking a twist on a segment of his show called I’m Obsessed With I have not decided yet how often I will do this if it will be a weekly, bi-weekly, or a monthly post yet. So I will decide that and see the reaction after I start it next month.

What Made You Happy/Grateful This Month

I have yet to decide how exactly I am going to execute this, feel-good post so we shall see if this one comes to fruition.

(insert month)- Quotes That Inspired Me This Month

I think that this one will be fun to do and through this will help inspire others as well.

Monthly Music Playlist

What music am I listening to this month and why I chose that specific song and my interpretation of it.

Brain Dump

This one will be fun and random… might wind up being a little on the long side from time to time but that is okay because you can understand how I think. This one will be most likely be a weekly post.

By The Numbers

Fun Facts, About me, some fun numbers thing, haven’t decided whether this will be a weekly or a monthly post…

Top 10

This could go any direction and could be fun to do.

So let me know what you think…